I just joined this group and wanted to introduce myself. I am an introvert and for the most part, I don't really have any major problems with being this way. Ok, I don't make friends easily in real life, and I don't have (or need) a large circle of friends. I am more comfortable with online than real life interaction. I function well, socially, though, and even work in a job where I have to do a lot of talking. I never thought I could do this but I am doing it pretty well, much to my own surprise! I also love to go out and have fun though it is sometimes hard to motivate myself to actually do it, and I need lots of "me-time" afterwards. I used to be very shy, but that has got a lot better as I got older and more confident. I have trouble keeping in touch with my family (parents, siblings, in-laws) because spending time with them on top of my work and taking care of my kids, just cuts into my "alone" (recharge) time too much but for the most part they seem to accept my weirdness.
The biggest challenge I was ever faced with as an introvert, was, trying to be a good mother. It didn't seem so difficult when my kids were younger, because obviously my maternal instincts overrode my need for alone-time. Now, my kids are older though and I find it extremely exhausting. Two of them are basically adults but will continue to live at home for the foreseeable future (school and money issues), and of course, I don't want to make them feel unwanted, or like they should move out! I want to be a good mother. But, I am an introvert and have to live under one roof with THREE other adults (plus my youngest child) and sometimes it is just so very draining. I am afraid they are feeling unwanted or unloved at times because I often can't hide how overwhelmed I feel by constantly being surrounded by people! I dread the holidays because I crave alone time, but I know holidays are a time for family and togetherness. I shouldn't want to run away from it all! I should embrace the opportunity to be with my children.
I never made the connection between feeling this way (it has got worse over the last year or two) and the fact that I am introverted to the extreme, it only occurred to me a while ago that being an introvert is probably why I have so much trouble being a good mother, especially now that they are older. Like I said, I didn't notice it when they were small.
Sometimes I wonder if I should have had children at all, and that makes me feel horrible. :( Please don't flame me. I would love to hear from other introverts with children.
Thanks in advance!
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